Diaries of Americans.
I will b collecting a number of diaries of ordinary individuals into one document, portions of which may be of use to teachers. They are listed in order, by starting date of the entries.
Rep. John Quincy Adams devotes the last part of his life to fighting slavery as a member of Congress. |
James Wilkes Taylor
(1842-1844)
Here, we include selections from The Diary of James Wickes Taylor, who wrote about his struggles to succeed as a law clerk and lawyer in Cincinnati. His diary, covering 1842-1844, (as edited by James Taylor Dunn), was printed by The Ohio State Archeological and Historical Society in 1950.
His first entry was made on August 2, 1842, when Taylor was 23. He spent seven years in the “Queen City of the West,” but Dunn looks at only three. Taylor went on to be editor of one newspaper, write for others, and compile a History of Ohio, First Period, 1650-1787 (published in Cincinnati in 1854).
He
married Chloe Sweeting Langford, mentioned but not named in his first diary
entry, in 1845. They had five daughters. (Chloe was one of thirteen children
herself.) Her husband was later appointed to be U.S. counsel in Winnipeg,
Manitoba, and remained in that post for twenty-three years, until his death in
1893.
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August 2d 1842: A
year since I witnessed an interview, which revealed to me a delightful
assurance. Since morning, that event, and its consequences upon my present
feelings and future happiness, have been to me, a constant and grateful time of
musing, and let me celebrate the anniversary of that mutual discovery of two
hearts – each learning the secrets of the other, by dedicating to its memory
The
first page of my Diary (1)
Since James must head West to find (he hopes) success in his career, he leaves Chloe behind in New York, but promises to keep a diary. He traveled by canal across most of New York, took a lake steamer at Buffalo, and on arrival in Cincinnati, he set down some of his experiences.
Cincinnati O. December 4th: 1842. At Syracuse I… booked myself for Lewiston via Oswego Canal and Lake Ontario. The route was new to me, although I almost repented of my choice during the long watches of that night. O!! The miseries of the crowded cabin, the foul air, and narrow berths of a Packet Boat. …
Very
little of interest occurred on our voyage to Lewiston. One hour is a sample of
twenty-four. I battled a cabin-ful of Whigs one whole forenoon. I had a tete
a tete with a Hungarian, whose family was evidently noble, but who had
emigrated to Wisconsin about two years since. He was just returning from Europe
with his wife and children, accompanied by his father (a member of the
Hungarian Diet who could speak French, German and Latin, but not
English) and his mother. His parents intend returning in two years. Egad! They may
have been noble, but some lessons in cleanliness would not have been amiss. (102/2)
At Buffalo, Taylor boarded the steamer Illinois:
Frank
Johnson and his band played us out of Buffalo harbor … It was a beautiful day
when we tempted the waters of Lake Erie. The Illinois, a noble boat, was
crowded to excess with passengers. Swiss emigrants, in great numbers choked the
steerage – a brutalized class in very truth. Among the endless variety of
characters which thronged the decks and cabins, I noticed the Hungarian family,
two young Highlanders in their native plaides [sic] and two or three families
from Yates County … emigrating to the West. … Saturday morning, and I was
landed in Cleveland – welcomed to the soil of Ohio by a drizzling rain, through
which I plodded to my hotel. (102/3)
Cleveland impressed him, but he quickly boarded a canal boat which would take him to Columbus.
From
Sunday evening to Wednesday noon we were “dragging our slow length along” the
Ohio Canal. I should have died of ennui if our company had not been
select and entertaining – the table furnished with tolerable variety and
neatness, and the weather so delightful, that the deck was the favorite resort
of all. (102/4)
He took a stage for Cincinnati on Friday morning, December 14, arriving at 3 a.m. the next day. During the ride, he met a judge who offered up his opinions on various topics and persons. Of William Henry Harrison, the judge remarked, “He was the most insufferably vain man I ever knew.” (102/5)
Once arrived in Cincinnati, Taylor found lodgings in the home of a widow lady, at terms of “$4 a week exclusive of fire and light.” (102/6)
He met and befriended a Mr. Ethan Stone and his family, Stone being one of the first settlers of the town (1802), and a relation by marriage, and also Alphonso Taft, destined to be the father of U.S. President William Howard Taft.
December
23d 1842.
I had my Daguerreotype likeness taken to day with tolerable success and will
make another trial to morrow. I intend it for my mother.
January
1st 1843. I had intended to enter in this my diary a deliberate
series of resolutions for the coming year. But when brought to the test I
shrink from the attempt. … Experience of the coming year might prove a sad
commentary upon the presumptive vows formed and registered on its first night.
… But I will venture to note three points – 1 Religion – to examine, mature my
convictions and act on this important subject – 2 My profession – in the
words of Lord Eldon, to live like a hermit and work like a dog – 3 Chloe - Yet
what need of recording a prediction, that the first of ’44 shall find me true
in heart to her, and as ardent in hope for her dear sake and the future, as at
this moment? (102/11-12)
February
7. [He
has this to say of Gen. Lewis Cass] He belongs to the second rank of our public
men, yet his pretensions to the Presidency are daily becoming more prominent
and feasible. He has been a popular and influential Minister to France – his
descriptions of its King Court and Government have been read with universal
pleasure and interest, and in the present confusion of the political Cauldron,
it is deemed that his name may have the effect of soothing its raging elements.
His chief merit is a negative one. Sheltered by his official situation and
duties at Paris, he is identified with no party – no special policy, and is
perfectly free from the embittered associations of the last five years. (102/13)
February
25. A
frightful accident occurred this evening. A Pork House near the canal on Tenth
St took fire, and was followed by an explosion of the gas, engendered from the
vast quantities of lard, which flung the roof of the building into the crowded
street, killing several, and wounding many others. (102/14)
He later reports that eight have died, others injured, and that a sense of gloom hangs over the town.
“The wrath of God.”
He makes the first of several entries dealing with William Miller, a devout expert on the Bible. Miller made a careful study of every line, and warned that the math showed that the Second Coming of Jesus and the end of the world were near. His warnings aroused thousands of Americans to take stock of their souls, and prepare for Doomsday.
The Millerites published two newspapers in Cincinnati in these years, The Jubilee Trumpet and The Western Midnight Cry.
March 1: The
Miller delusion has its victims (the word is better than “converts”) here, as
well as in the Eastern cities. (102/15)
April
20
(Thursday): For two weeks I have been “dawdling” (to use a word introduced to
the language under the auspices of Fanny Kemble) at the Court House. On the
whole, it is no waste of time. … There is a dramatic interest attending a trial
before a jury, or an argument to the Court, which stimulates attention and
reinforces the recollection. [One day he sees Chief Jockosot in native dress.]
He carried his tomahawk in his hands. I hear that he is proceeding east,
accompanied by two trained buffaloes, for the purpose of public exhibition, and
will proceed to England.
April
23. This
is the day, when our ears were to be greeted by the “crack of doom,” if Miller
had donned the prophetic mantle. But its hours are speeding in safety to their
bourn, and the curtain of time has not dropped over the world. (102/16-18)
May 13. Some
one says truly, “God made the country and man made the town.” (102/19)
June 14. [From
a high hill, west of the city, in “a very small village” called Cheviot, Taylor
looks down at the Ohio River Valley.] From the hill that overhangs the valley
of Cincinnati at this point, the prospect eastward is very imposing. We were
looking down upon an immense amphitheatre perhaps destined to contain a million
of people. (102/21)
Taylor spends part of a Sunday at a display of flowers. On the corner of Third Street and Vine, he passes the office where the newspapers of William Miller, spreading the word of the worlds’ end, are published.
I
glanced in, and there were seated several sinister-looking fellows, as
lugubrious as the fate they are predicting. One was reading aloud, and I
overheard a single phrase, “the wrath of
God.” I could not help contrasting the two scenes – the floral, and the
fanatical.
Apropos, the
Millerites have leased for several weeks the church across the way, and hold
nightly their doom-denouncing meetings there. I have not attended them, but
they cram our ears against the stomach of our success, from dusk till ten
o’clock. (102/22)
The diarist also runs into Rees Evans Price, a dedicated preacher, who Taylor notes believes “he should never die.”
He is
expecting daily, the advent of a third Adam, a precursor of the Messiah, a
prophet something like John the Baptist, who is to change the moral surface of
the Globe, and whom he calls “the Ancient of days” described in the 72d Psalm.
The great events, plagues, overthrows, signs & wonders, to ensue, and
precede, the final coming of Christ, and running through a period of a thousand
years, is the burden of Prices mission of prophecy, for which he claims the
high authority of direct inspiration. He has the Bible on his tongues end and I
listen to his rhapsodies with considerable interest.
In
1872, a writer would note that Price could talk, “not by the hour only, but the
day and night.” (81)
Taylor also crosses paths again with Jockosot,
…a Sac or Fox Indian, who has been in Cincinnati for several months in full costume, had become intoxicated in a low Jewish tavern across the street, and becoming clamorous, was turned out of doors. This aroused all his fury, and he grew so outrageous, that an attempt was made to take him before the Mayor. He resisted, and for half an hour, his struggles with four or five athletic men, were tremendous. He swayed back & forth – roaring out his war songs in the madness of his rage. He was at length overpowered, after the most Herculean resistance and was dragged down Vine St, muttering fearful imprecations, as his head drooped forward over his breast – Completely exhausted by his intense muscular exertion. Poor fellow! the doom of his race is upon him! (102/23)
June 15.
Twenty years ago great numbers of silver eels were caught in the streams of
Butler Co, although now they are seldom found. Mr. S. was very fond of them,
and whenever he attended court at Hamilton, secured if possible his favorite
dish. (102/24)
June 28. It is
a very warm night. I dread the thought of retiring to my rest. My windows are
open, and a strange medley of sounds greets my ears. Across the way, a
fanatical Millerite is bellowing wrath and destruction to a crowded room. The
pavements ring with the tread of numbers, returning from Shires garden [ a
theater] – carriages rattle by, and about an hour since, I heard a crier,
calling a “lost child,” but my lamp is waning. (102/25)
On July 2, Taylor went to hear speakers talk about the future of Oregon. Richard M. Johnson, the man famed for killing Tecumseh, was featured. He spoke in a “very energetic” fashion. “The crowd was too unwashed for a warm afternoon, and I soon escaped to purer air.” (102/27)
(On July 3, the Cincinnati Gazette
could warn visitors to the city, for the Fourth of July celebration: “The
pickpockets will undoubtedly have a strong delegation here, and we advise every
one to keep a sharp lookout for his money and papers, and pocket his watch, and
watch his pocket too.”)
On July 4, he goes to hear speakers celebrate the day. “The military parade was very much as usual, with the addition of clouds of light dust, which attended the march of the Companies.” The colonel of the militia regiment “galloped back and forth,” making quite a show, “with hat off, and a very fierce look on.”
One speaker read the Declaration of Independence, which was “well recieved [sic] and applauded at the close.”
Before they commenced Rees E. Price, a poor religious lunatic, whom I have mentioned before in this diary, was haranguing the crowd upon the advent of the “Ancient of days,” despite of interruptions, hootings and jeers, and when Telford was about commencing, Price, who had clomb into a tree so as to be nearly on a level with the balcony [from which the speakers were addressing the crowd], broke forth into a loud demand “by what authority the people were gathered together” etc. With some difficulty he was quieted, and he made no interruption, until the close of the oration, when he could no longer be restrained, and began raving upon his usual topics, at the top of his lungs. How [well] this little incident represents the existence and extent of a morbid fanaticism in the community at this time.
“Nine runaway slaves.”
Taylor mentions Mrs. Elizabeth Sellman, “a widow lady, who although advanced in years, is sprightly, jocose, straight as a candle, and remarkably good-looking.” Her husband, he adds, “was the surgeon at Fort Washington, which once occupied the site of Cincinnati, and her residence here commenced in 1796.” (102/29)
July 9. [He
visits the Circuit Court.] Several important cases have grown out of the common
practice of harboring and facilitating the escape of slaves from their masters
in Kentucky. Although such precautions are usually observed, that no clue is
left for the recovery of the fugitives, or the punishment of their
confederates, still an occasional instance occurs, in which some incautious
abolitionist is so connected with the affair, that a civil suit for damages is
brought and sustained. Such a case is now on trial before Judge McLean. A Mr
[John] Van Zandt on the morning of April 24 ’42 took into his market wagon, by
concert with Cincinnati abolitionists, nine runaway slaves, and had proceeded
some thirty miles toward Lebanon, when he was stopped, and the negroes restored
to their master and the Plaintiff in this action, under the act of Congress of
1792 [1793]. These circumstances, beside his confessions at the time he was
thus intercepted, leave little or no doubt, that Van Z., who seems a weak,
simple-minded, fanatical man, will be amerced in heavy damages, although only
one of the negroes finally escaped, and proved a total loss. Several of the
witnesses have caused considerable merriment in Court. One fellow said, that on
Sunday morning (April 24) he saw Van Z.
running his wagon on the Lebanon turnpike, and “I told him that it didn’t look
well, for a man that belonged to the meetin, to be running horses on Sunday. He
was always lecturing me on my bad deeds, and I thought I’d lecture him.” “What
had he lectured you about?” asked the Counsel for the defence. “That’s none of
your concern!” “But you must tell all” – persisted [Salmon P.] Chase. The
opposite Counsel then interfered – the lawyers exchanged pros and cons, and the
Judge was gravely proceeding to decide the point, when the witness broke in.
“Wal! If you want to hear it, I’ll tell – I’m agreeable! but” he added with the
coolest nonchalance “it’ll keep you here a week any how!” The Judge cut
the precious narrative short. The city is full of influenza, which has been
very severe and prevalent at the east, but is less so [here] – it is called the
grippe and by some the Tyler grippe, from the fact that its being
at its height during the Presidents late tour to Boston. (102/30)
July 13. The
Van Zandt case has at length closed, with a verdict against the defendant of
$1200. I confess to a feeling of regret at this result. My sympathies had
become gradually enlisted in behalf of the poor fellow, whose whole conduct had
grown out of opinions and feelings, with which every freeman must sympathise.
Strolling
in the street this evening, I analysed the sounds, that filled the air. Music
was the chief ingredient – at the Jews tavern hard by, in German – from the
piano & voices in Mr. Jones parlor etc. Thus it is every where, these warm
evenings, in Cincinnati. (102/34)
(The
case of Van Zandt eventually went to the U.S. Supreme Court, Jones v. Van
Zandt, where he was again defeated.)
Walking along Vine Street with a friend named J. H. Bates one day, the two men spy “a pair of formidable French corsets” in a shop window. Taylor reports that they were “fringed with lace” and “immediately arrested our attention.” They stood gazing at the undergarments for a moment – in awe.
At length Bates broke forth – “Good heavens!” said he, “is that the material of which women are made?” (102/33)
On another occasion, Taylor hears a story about a little boy who, becoming angry with his mother for some reason, exclaimed, “Ma! I wish my father had never married you!” (102/34)
July 19. We have had an interesting spectacle in the streets to day. The Wyandot Indians, about 700 in number, the last relic of a tribe in the North western part of the state, in removing beyond the Miss[is]sippi, passed through Cincinnati. There are some fine figures among them but most look low and brutal. They are half civilized, and their costume is not aboriginal mainly, although occasionally may be seen a trace of Indian finery – the women wearing hats, with tin bands and feathers. They leave tonight in two steamboats, chartered to take them to the Upper Miss[is]sippi. I hear that that many of them were dead-drunk on the landing this afternoon. They are the last of their unfortunate race in Ohio. A half-century has seen them completely supplanted and removed. (102/35-36)
July 23.
[Taylor has a talk with] Gen. Price, the religious monomaniac, whom I have
mentioned before in my diary. … I took some pains to draw him out. I satisfied
myself, that he believes, that the “Ancient of days” will set up his spiritual
kingdom on the banks of the Ohio, and is none other than his inspired self. He
is sure that he is of Jewish extraction, among other reasons, because he
“abominates swines flesh.” He insists that the “dispensation of the fullness of
times” has come, in which, the law of human food as given to Adam in the garden
of Eden, is binding upon all. This prohibits the use of animal food, “of
anything that has ever had life,” but allows of vegetables. I remarked to him,
that at this season of the year, his table would be well supplied, as I
supposed that he would partake freely of all the fruits etc. now offered in
Market. “Yes!” he replied, “all except the apple.”
Price also warns Taylor that tobacco is an abomination, and “that no one who uses the filthy weed can enter the kingdom of Heaven.” (102/36-37)
Another day, the diarist passes by an open door and hears a speaker – in German – explaining to “a roomful of persons” a plan to move to Missouri. Ten thousand acres have already been purchased, “which are to be worked in common for several years, and when the whole is thus improved – then it is to be divided in equal portions by lot. A modified kind of Fourierism – or rather an imitation of the settlement at Zoar in this state.” (102/38)
July 28. We have had a short visit, of a day and night from a Mr Riley [sic] of Hamilton – an old man of 80. He is beloved in the region of his residence, and remarked, that he was on the site of Cincinnati in 1789, when this valley was covered with beech trees, and a few cabins were placed in the openings of them, where they had been cut down. And all this within the experience of one man! (102/38)
“Mob City.”
August
2. A
fellow by the name of [D. P.] Scanlan, traveling northward, was attended by a
mulatto girl [Lavinea], his slave, who was decoyed away by abolitionists. For
the last week, S. has been publishing in the daily newspapers and in handbills,
silly complaints of this usage – yet appealing in an inflammatory manner, to
the prejudices against abolition, of the people. His intention was at length
consummated. Day before yesterday, a meeting was called in the Fifth St Market
house at 5 P.M. Some 5 or 6000 were present. Several gentlemen addressed them,
most of them, including the Mayor, deprecating violence, and urging the crowd
to disperse. All this was in vain, for the numbers continued to increase until
8 o’clock when the mob attacked the windows and doors of one [Cornelius]
Burnet[t], who keeps a confectionery shop, north side of Fifth St, between Vine
and Walnut, so that the scene of this violence was but a few rods from Mr
Stones. Just before dark, I was a passing under the building and was warned to
keep away, and teams (next morning being market) were not suffered to stand in
front of the doomed premises. A vast crowd filled the area, but these
disgraceful proceedings were allowed to proceed uninterrupted till 10 o’clock,
when the Mayor with a small police, made a sally, arrested several
ring-leaders, and succeeded in securing them in the Watch House. Previously
however, the windows had been demolished, and doors broken in, but a few of the
mob, who attempted to rush forward through the breach, recieved [sic] rather
warm greeting from above, in the form of boiling hot molasses, which was
precipitated upon their heads. The rumor was prevalent that armed men were
within, and the city authorities about this time beginning to wake from their
stupor, the throng seems satisfied for the present with the effect of their
missiles and dispersed. Next morning some 2000 people again assembled in front
of Burnet[t]s and were becoming riotous, but the Peace officers were more
numerous and efficient, and various arrests being made, the mob was cowed. By
this time, the city had become alarmed, and the “horse having been stolen,” the
authorities thought it necessary to show their “tardy promptitude,” by “locking
the stable door.” …
Thus
ends another of those outbreaks, which are fascinating on Cincinnati the
unenviable soubriquet of the “mob city.”
(As editor Dunn notes, in just six years, Cincinnati had been rocked by mob violence three times: James G. Birney’s abolitionist printing press was destroyed in 1836. There were Irish-Negro battles in 1841, and a bank riot in 1842.)
[Scanlan
continues to issue handbills, calling for “justice.”] The mob must, it seems,
be spurred on until he can get the girl in his clutch again. I hope in
conscience that his folly will not meet a reward, so acceptable to his
covetousness.
The abolitionists have no doubt been equal in meanness, but the opposite faction, the mobocratic, are equally and more to blame. I have no doubt that the Court would decide the girl free, if she was voluntarily brought within the state. But we shall see the issue of all this! (102/39-40)
“Farewell Ohio, and her Brave!”
August
6. An
interesting incident is told of the Wyandots. While passing North Bend – the
machinery of the boat was stopped, the tribe were gathered on the deck, facing
the tomb of [William Henry] Harrison and remained uncovered while the current
bore them past the spot. The silence was unbroken, until the Chief stepped
forward, and with a parting gesture, exclaimed, “Farewell Ohio, and her Brave!”
A cannon on board uttered a salute, the boat shot forward, and thus ended a
scene, more fraught with poetic association, than often comes within our
observation. (102/41)
September
10.
Thursday afternoon I went to Hamilton by the packet – leaving here at 3 P.M.
& arriving at H. by 10. Our route, while the daylight allowed of
observation, lay through the Valley of the Mill-Creek. On each side of the
canal extended rich and highly cultured bottoms, terminating in uplands of more
diversified surface. I took tea on board, not only without nausea, but with
considerable relish and approval – wiled the tedium of canal travel by reading
“Nina” F[redrika] Bremers last novel, and amused myself at other times
by the conversation of the Captain and my fellow passengers. The fare for a
distance of 29 miles was only 75 cents. Hamilton is a pleasant, but quiet
village. The streets are wide, and laid out with taste. In the center of the town,
is an enclosed square, where stand the county buildings – very good structures.
A fine bridge is thrown across the Miami River, and leading to the village of
Rossville, which is even more populous and compact than Hamilton. There appears
to be little stir in these places, but great expectations are entertained of
benefits to be derived from an immense water power, obtained by damming the
Miami River a few miles above, and which can be made available in several parts
of the town, for the propulsion of an indefinite amount of machinery. (102/46)
September 21. Mr Guilford is about starting a new Whig daily paper, to be called the “Cincinnati Daily Atlas.” (102/48)
“Millerism as a delusion.”
Septr 25. Yesterday I went with Mr Jones to the place where the Miller tent is outspread. It covers an area of 200 feet in diameter, and will contain an immense crowd. While I was on the ground, it was thronged by thousands. … I remained among the Millerites the whole morning, interested by the appearance of the crowd, and listening with considerable interest to a sermon from a Mr [George] Storrs … About a year since I examined the subject, and satisfied my own mind, that these apprehensions are premature and groundless. All these lecturers assume that the power of the Church of Rome (Anti-Christ) was completely broken, overthrown in 1798. They must assume this, or all subsequent predictions have nothing to rest on. The fact is far otherwise. Almost within sight of their encampment, are going up the walls of a splendid Catholic Cathedral – a rebuke to their assumption, that the Downfall of the Roman religion occurred in the last century. This fact is sufficient to stamp Millerism as a delusion. (102/48-49)
“Professionally, and avowedly, a flirt.”
January 18, 1844: For four months, Taylor fails to update his diary. By this time, former President John Quincy Adams has visited the city. Taylor had been able to watch him pass below in the street, as he looked out the window of the home where he was staying. Adams, he notes, rode in an open carriage, the November sun “glinting” off “his shining bald head.” The diarist traveled to Columbus, hoping to improve his business prospects – perhaps join a law firm there. He mentions meeting “a Miss Lizzy Hensley,” a quick-witted girl, “an inexhaustible talker,” a young lady of “considerable although not remarkable beauty, and professionally, and avowedly, a flirt.”
He is
actually more impressed with her sister, Mrs. Starling, a married woman,
intelligent, refined, and an interesting conversationalist. Yet, her figure has
“grown out of all proportion – even her face has not escaped the effects of
obesity.” Had his heart not been true to Chloe, he writes, he would have lost
it to Mrs. Starling, “a woman that would weigh down three of me.” (102/52)
February 12: [The] German population is increasing among us, to an unprecedented degree. They are very industrious plodding people, they have stability of character – much goodness of heart, and many social virtues. I feel kindly toward them, and will not allow myself to auger evil from their presence here. (102/54)
(The area north of the canal in
Cincinnati – the canal now replaced by Central Parkway, became known as
“Over-the-Rhine,” due to the heavy concentration of immigrants in that
location.)
February
15.
[Taylor reports that a small garden on the corner of Fourth and Walnut streets
is being dug up.] It was owned by the First Presbyterian Church, and has
recently been sold, and is being excavated, preparatory to building. I have
interested myself in my daily walks, by noting the progress of what most would
call improvement, but which seems to me very like spoilation. It seems that
long since, that part of town was consecrated as a grave-yard, and many of the
bones of early settlers have been exhumed and cast rudely forth, since this
excavation commenced. I paused one day to look at some of these disturbed
relics. A silent group were contemplating them, – all subdued into a reverent
feeling of awe. I passed on, and so probably did they, forgetting too soon in
some other engrossment, both the profanation, and its morality. (102/56)
March 23. The “end of the world” is expected to day, according to Miller’s horoscope, but so far (10 A.M.) every thing remains in statu quo – “no signs of wo, that all is lost,” so far as I have observed... (102/57)
“The ball now set in motion, must roll its course.”
April 4.
[There is great interest in the town, regarding the possible annexation of
Texas by treaty with Mexico.] Present indications are that the Constitutional
majority of the Senate cannot be obtained to such a treaty, but the South is
favoring the project – our interest points the same way and it is only the
prevalence of an anti-slavery sentiment, and a reluctance on the part of the
north, to increase the political predominance of the slave power in the Senate
of the Union, which prevents the country adopting the measure by acclamation.
It occupies the public mind to the exclusion of other political topics. I think
that the friends of annexation will only exert themselves to postpone the
consideration of the subject, and thus make it the great question before the
people, during the next Presidential election.
…
Provided always that the people of Texas desire annexation, the ball now set in
motion, must roll its course… (102/58)
[He
mentions an incident from April 1.] ... I was walking along Walnut Street, when
my attention was arrested by the cry of a boy in great distress. It was so
piercing – so agonized, that all who were passing stopped, and some hurried to
the spot. Windows were thrown hastily open, and the neighborhood, having
probably a proprietary right in a good many children, seemed thoroughly
aroused. This was all our young actor desired, who bursting into a loud laugh,
with a shout of “April fool,” scampered round a corner, sound in life, lungs,
and limb. I witnessed several such pranks – among others, pulling a door bell –
then retreating across the street, and greeting the servant by whom the door
was opened, with a yell of derision. (102/59)
Taylor often mentions hiking out into the countryside for pleasure, sometimes to get away from the heat and dust of the city. On one hike, across the river, in Kentucky, he and a friend started from New Port [ now Newport], a village which he describes as “the most dilapidated – the most desolate, that I have ever encountered.” He and J. W. Ryland reach the top of a hill, where they enjoy a view of the Ohio River, and Cincinnati across the way. On their return they happen upon the cabin of an Irishman, “where we were furnished with a draught of water, declining our hosts hospitable offer of grog, praised his blue eyed children, which he pronounced ‘fresh from the Green isle’ – returned to New Port - recrossed the river, and reached home at sunset.”
He also reports on the efforts of a Major James F. Conover to win the heart a Miss Norton. The Major is “about 50 years old,” the young woman, it seems, much younger. But
… he could not have been more violently enamored. It showed itself at the most ludicrous times and places. The presence of others could not restrain the ardor of the Major – his manner was full of empressment, his eye of tender entreaty, as if meeting her “by moonlight, alone.” Indeed, I am told that he made a declaration in the crowd at Shires garden, and on the stage – probably for the dramatic effect. At any rate the scene had quite a numerous audience. I passed them about that time, and was struck with the Major’s supplicatory manner. Mrs Wright tells me, that although not accepted, and indeed meeting a rather discouraging reception, he still pressed a ring on Miss N. by dropping it in her lap, and on her refusing to take it up, remarking that “she might give it to the dogs,” for he should never touch it. Miss N. must have been very much flattered by the Majors avowing such a “second choice.” Miss Norton returned to Cleveland some four months ago – unengaged – yet having given Conover some encouragement. His presents were mostly accepted, and the Major followed them up with some very impassioned and elaborate correspondence. The siege has been so vigorously conducted, that he hopes now to carry the citadel by storm, and with that doughty resolution, has gone, trundling…[off] to Cleveland. What his success will be, remains to be seen, although the Wrights argue favorably for the Major. The town is gossiping away, very industriously, on the subject. He has lately built a fine house on 4th, lighted it with gas, furnished it tastefully, and now only needs a beautiful piece of statuary, to complete his decorations. … But enough of this love affair. A whole page, as I live, is already occupied with it, but as I have few opportunities of catching such a bit of gossip, I must arrest this one. (102/59-61)
Taylor passes the examination to become a lawyer – but struggles to find a partner, and set up a law practice. He talks about his “straightened circumstances,” and groans, “If I had a $1000, or even $500, I would open an office immediately.” He considers writing to ask his friend, Charles A. Loomis, to leave Columbus behind, and come to Cincinnati, “bringing with him sufficient capital as furnished by his father, and we together open an office.”
Neither this plan, nor several others come to fruition. (102/63)
May 2. We
were abroad, yesterday afternoon, despite my foreboding. It was a pleasant
escape from the streets of a city, hot and filled with dust, to the fresh and
grateful air of the country. We went up Race St, until we encountered a bold
ascent beyond the canal, whose summit was fringed with woods. This we breasted,
and rambled for some hours among the trees, which stand thick and stately,
shadowing a large tract, whose surface is pleasantly diversified with hill
& dale. Every part of the forest was vocal with the laughter of children,
grouped pleasantly in every direction, with swings suspended from the branches
of trees – their dinner baskets showing that the frolic had been afoot ever
since morning. We rambled from party to party, drinking from the springs that
gush forth at the bottom of the ravines – avoiding the young men and ladies,
many of whom were out, but dashing into the freest acquaintances with the
children – throwing ourselves upon the grass or fallen trunks – chatting,
criticizing, speculating, on every possible subject.
Taylor has given much thought to the idea that Texas would be annexed – but wondered why the Texans would want it.
But why
will the Texans consent to this suicidal annexation. They might run a Southern
line across the Continent, making California their great Western province, and
thus build up a Republic, whose political weight would soon be felt in the
great family of nations. (102/68)
May 3. We
have the Texas Treaty and Tyler’s message by to-day’s mail. These documents
first saw the light at New-York, surreptitiously obtained from Washington. The
treaty is as was expected – Texas annexed as a territory – debt of $10,000,000
assumed, the vacant lands being relied upon as a fund to pay it, etc.
May 13. Mr.
Chapin is here with thirteen of his pupils, including the two Chinese girls. He
gives a concert this evening.
May 14. I
attended Mr Chapins exhibition of the blind last evening. It was intensely
interesting. The exercises in mental mathematics, including problems in the
abstruser rules of Algebra – the articles of their manufacture – writing and
reading by raised letters – music, instrumental and vocal – all were wonderful.
There were few present, owing to the inclemency of the night, but those were
delighted, and I foresee that by the ensuing Concerts (for several are to be
given) public attention and interest will be very much aroused. (102/70)
(William Chapin was superintendent of
the Ohio Institute for the Education of the Blind (1840-1846).
May 17. Every
thing is dark – uncertain in my future – the various schemes which I have been
indulging, prove baseless. …
I
called night before last, on Taft and his family – passed a pleasant evening –
talking politics with Mr. T. and chit-chat with the ladies. Mrs. T. has a
younger sister with her, a good looking girl – made rather unfashionable
however, and with little or no manner.
June 1. I
supped with young [George Hunt] Pendleton last evening. … We had a sumpt[u]ous
feast of strawberries and ice cream, pine apple, and wines. The evening passed
pleasantly, until we left at midnight. (102/71)
June 3. News
came yesterday by the river that James K. Polk was nominated for Prest and
Silas Wright for Vice. … That he will be elected, no one can expect. The
success of Mr Clay, it seems to me, is made certain by this selection.
10 A.M. Since writing the above, I learn that Silas Wright declines the nomination. Morses Magnetic Telegraph is constructed between Washington & Baltimore, by means of which, communication can be had instantaneously between the two cities. When the nominations were thus transmitted to Washington, Mr. Wright immediately replied by telegraph, that he could not accept. … By today’s boats, we may hear something further.
(Edward L. Morse would later write
that, “The conventions at Baltimore happened most opportunely for the display
of the powers of the Telegraph.” (102/85)
5 P.M.
The foregoing rumor turns out to be true. Mr. Wright persisted in his
declension, and the convention, which had not yet adjourned, nominated G.M.
Dallas of Pennsylvania – a man as inferior, to several of those named in the
ballotings, as Polk is to Van Buren or Calhoun. … There was a Tyler convention
at the same time in Baltimore. They went through the farce of nominating the
acting-President. (102/72)
June 8.
Looking over these pages, I am struck with the difference in tone, between
these concluding passages and my first buoyant entries, so sanguine with the
hopes and schemes of success. I trust that Chloe, if she ever peruses this
record, will not think too contemptuously of me, because it is so. (102/73)
June 13. The
Texas Treaty is rejected – 13 to 35 – I am not sorry. It outraged too palpably
our peaceful relations with Mexico, and the accompanying correspondence was
flagrant in its character, making our Government the propagandist of slavery. (102/72-73)
July 4. I
hope to leave for home next week. I shall make an arrangement with Mr. Miner,
by which I shall place myself in funds. Whether I shall remain here or go to
Toledo, is uncertain.
… I am
not well – listless – certainly in no mood for diary keeping.
August
19. I am
sitting in Mr. Langfords parlor in Westmoreland [New York], the hand of dear
Chloe linked in mine, and certain eyes, the brightest and best-loved in the
world contriving to decipher these characters as I write.
Another potential opening in a budding law firm fails to materialize, though Taylor waits in New York for a month, hoping for a letter. With Chloe by his side, his disappointment, he writes, is “much alleviated by the mutual affection and confidence, that exists between us.”
At the end of September, he returned to
Cincinnati, where he will remain for several more years, and bring his new
bride in 1845.
The city as it would have looked around the time Wickes lived there. |
Annie Cooper
(1881-1895)
NOTE TO TEACHERS: The tortured romance which follows might interest students. Ms. Cooper’s reluctance to allow a man to kiss her on the lips would likely strike most as strange.
I would wonder what they might make of Mr. Camp, the minister, and her first love, or Mr. Boyd, who seems to be a “cad,” (to use that dated term), her second and greatest love.
Would they have a high opinion of Annie? Or consider her odd? In
what ways does she sound like people they know today?
Annie Cooper, 15, began her diary in the summer of 1880. In Private Pages, the editor begins with an entry from December 1881. Years later, looking back on her youth, growing up in Sag Harbor, New York, Annie remembered, “What a jolly rollicing girl” she was. The boys she knew often took her along crabbing and fishing, because they said she was “as good as a boy.”
In 1881, the year she turned 17 (December 11), she wrote, “I hate to grow up. My childhood has been so sweet, I hate to part with it.” Not until 1883 did Cooper begin to write more often. In her case, we shall post her diary to the year 1895, when a most agonizing romance finally reaches a climax.
1883
April 8. Home
is the sweetest and dearest place to one in the world.
June 2. I
went to Brooklyn to visit Annie Rhodes, had a lovely time, went everywhere
nearly, stayed three weeks, went to my first ball, & a grand ball it
was! & to four Theaters or Operas. I had plenty of fellows & attention,
and all that sort of thing! I can’t begin to tell how I enjoyed it! I got me a
new silk dress & hat, picked it out myself, & had a good time spending
money generally, in all I spent $33.43 while I was away, & I did not buy
many nickknacks either. Money melts in N.Y. Papa was so good and generous!
October 14. Since I wrote last in this book, my sister, my only sister, so loving, so true, so kind & yet always so cheerful has been married & left me to rule supreme in our room and in the house. I cannot realize that she is married, she has always been so kind to me, and so much with me that I have always considered her as young almost as myself. She was always the helper to Mamma in the house cares, I must try to fill her place. Oh! what a mountain it seems like! my filling her place! why simply impossible! but God helping me, I will fill it as much as it ought to be filled, I will be kind, loving, obedient, patient, & thoughtful, God help me.
1884
“I feel a peaceful joy.”
December 7. 6 months since I wrote in this book, & today I have taken the boldest & best step of my life. I have joined the church, and I’m happier and feel freer than I ever did in my life before. I do not feel that wonderful, uncontrollable joy which some people talk about, but I feel a peaceful joy. What I longed to do for months and months, but no one had taken the trouble to speak to me upon the subject until lately when Mr. Camp, our minister, came to see me, also Puss [a friend]. I felt no great change, sudden and terrible but I do feel changed. I shall be 20 this week. I am so glad I have taken this step while I can say I am in my teens. I went to the young peoples meeting tonight, Mr. Camp might almost have asked me to speak, but I feel it almost wrong for women to speak in church, after reading what Paul says, I mean to ask Mr. Camp about it. I did not speak, & I felt awfully guilty, but still I don’t think I did wrong exactly, I read a verse though.
1885
“What he comes here for, is more than I can see.”
February
7. This
afternoon I have been skating on Crooked Pond! Oh, Oh, what fun! It is the most
delightful pond anyway! the surroundings are lovely, & it is all turns
& inlets & outlets, & islands! Oh! I just love it! We were a party
of 12, & rode up in wagons, had a fire on one of the islands.
February
16. Mr.
Camp has been down playing chess this evening, I beat him 2 games out of 3.
What he comes here for, is more than I can see. For he
does not pay scarcely any attention to Mama & Papa, & I surely know
he does not care about paying any attention to me, for why should he a
minister & a man of 43 years old, & a bacholor, care about coming here
to play chess with me, a giddy young girl, scarcely out of my teens. It is a
puzzle for me, for he never talks religion to me…It is very pleasant to have
him come, I enjoy it of course, if he is goose enough to waste his time on me…
I was
going to have such a nice time practicing to-night, it rained so hard, when he
came & and of course, I practiced in another direction – coque –
flirat – etc, chess I mean. He kindly informed me that I must not fall
in love with him as if I had any idea of it!!! His conceit is
unparalleled!!! I told him he should not have come here to-night, & I
am sure I can’t see why he did!
February
28. I
have been to church & Oh Oh what sermons! Mr. Camp seems inspired! when in
the pulpit, but went out Oh! what a change, he is a “flirt” if ever I saw one,
but the most innocent one! I have been riding with him to-day, over on North
Haven, doing calls, on his parishioners, call it my first missionary tour,
wonder if I will ever have another, I hope so, for although I detest his
continual nonsense, still it is very pleasant to be talked to the way he
talks. He is so charming…
April
15. Mr.
Cook has been here to-night, much to Papa’s disgust, I don’t see why Papa
doesn’t like to have either him or Mr. Camp call on me, & I can’t
understand why he should mind such old foggies as they are, he can’t possibly
think that I will fall in love with them. That would be too absurd!
April
25. That
old – goose is gone. I ought to be ashamed perhaps to speak of my pastor like
this & of course I wouldn’t for anything in the world to anyone but you, my
dear, diary… But what a old – what shall I say – fraud he is! Comes here &
take tea and flatter me just lays it on thick, & then flirt, & do all
sorts of things that would be charming in any other man, but for a minister, –
– ! Well, I don't know! run on in the most nonsensical way to Papa when he knows
that Papa is feeling “blue”, not a word of spiritual advice, or comfort,
& then go to church the next day and preach the most magnificent and
wonderful sermon, that I or anybody heard, he put his whole soul in it too. …
Annie writes that she resents Mr. Camp’s frivolity during visits, as if “he thinks me capable of no higher or nobler or deeper thought than those with which he favors me.” She says she resented his conduct on this evening. She continues,
… I was
actually ugly, I was so sarcastic, I could not help it, he rubs me the
wrong way always. I don’t think, in fact I am sure he will not come here again
very soon, he did not enjoy his two minutes of his time I’ll warrant, I was
insulted in the first place by him when he first came in the room, that set me
off for the rest of the time he put his arm around – – I mean I was fixing the
string of the curtain, to pull it up, & it got fast, so I mounted the
rocker & he came to steady it for me, but full of the mischief as he always
is, he unsteady did it so that I almost fell into his “fond embrace”, –
of course I was indignant, I just guess I was! However I wish he could come
here oftener, if he has a mind to make a goose of himself I don’t care for
myself but I hate to have Papa see him do so. And indeed he doesn’t see half,
through my management. I screen him as much as possible.
April
26. Mr.
Cook came down after church & made quite a long call much to my fathers
disgust, after he left he actually threatened to tell him not to come again or
have any thing more to do with me. Oh! Papa is too absurd! as if there could be
any harm in Mr. Cook’s coming to see me & taking me to ride & sail! It
amuses me so I almost split trying not to smile when he talks that way. Of
course I don’t want him to see that I am laughing, but I can’t help it. Papa’s
in earnest, & I don’t want to give up Mr. Cook’s friendship.
On another occasion, Mr. Camp takes Annie and a friend to a housewarming, but then goes “off with another girl,” and that leads to a “terrible, terrible, time, a real fight.”
Two weeks later, they seem to have patched up their differences.
May 29. Oh!
Day most beautiful & rare. How can I express myself, Mr. Camp & I have
been riding, we went to the “Lovely Long Pond Spring” & drank its waters,
& made a wish there above the spring. Mr. C. was so “sweet”, you see dear
diary, I don’t want you to think that I am in love with him, my minister 30 or
I mean 43 years old. A “vieux garcon”. Oh! not at all! I assure you! I look
upon him & he upon me in the light of true disinterested friends, it is
pure Platonic Love that exists between us, nothing more or less. We
converse about love freely, & we understand each other. But he is a
great blessing to me, and I thank God for his great kindness in giving me such
a friend.
I dare
not put on paper the soft sweet words he tells me, if I were his “sweetheart”
he could not say or act much more, but he knows I understand, and match him in
that.
May 31. I
love God & his love fills me with a love to all his creatures & all
Nature. What did Mr. Camp mean when he said in soft sweet tones while he
found my hand & pressed it gently, “I warn you against love, beware
of love”? When out riding in the woods he talks of love to fellow creatures,
but not to one creature? When picking violets he takes his seat at my
feet & holds my hand (when I allow it) & repeats poetry about love?
when he takes my arm and looks into my face, aye my eyes, & says the
sweetest things imaginable, sometimes in French and sometimes in
English? Of course he knows I know it is purely Platonic, but
then it savors of flirtation too. He is a real good man, any way, pure
& high & noble in his impulses.
June 2. I am
not talented in music or singing or reading or talking. I could paint if I gave
my time to it, but this [is] hard to do when one is not taking lecons. … I have
no “sparkling wit”. I am not good looking, & although I do dress
handsomely still it cannot make me attractive – Oh! dear, I am way up one day
& way down the next & I am way way down to-day.
June 28.
To-day, Sunday, I consecrate myself anew to Christ, & all my powers &
energy, & I hencefourth leave Mr. Camp – I will have nothing more to do
with him accept as my pastor, he has completely disgusted me, I
shall not be “cosey” with him anymore. I feel hurt & pained to say so, but
I must! So here goes good bye – – – Adonis! good bye!
July 30.
Charlie [her brother] has been home, & Oh! Dear! I feel so very sad over
him, he has taken to reading Darwin & Herbert Spenser & others of the
same order, he partly believes in “Evolution”, and is investigating too far for
his own good I am afraid. I must pray for him. I am going to read Darwin &
H. S. myself to see what they are.
September
27.
Yesterday was an important day with me. I took a ride with Mr. Camp, and fought
the whole time, he made a remark to the effect that all the girls were in love
with him etc, which just set me off, & I stormed & stormed, my
indignation knew no bounds, I was just wild. I told him – my pastor – “that
of all the men I ever saw he was the most conceited”. I wanted to
have nothing more to do with him, (which is a big he) I guess it is all up with
us now, for sure but I hope not.
October
3. Mr.
Camp spent this evening with me playing chess. I enjoyed it immensely, but do
not understand how it is that he – a talented 44 yrs old bachelor, & a
minister can want to spend so much time on me, a green innocent, country
maiden.
The following spring, Annie realizes that Mr. Camp has taken more of an interest in her close friend and writes, “I am wounded to my heart’s core.” She writes only two more times in her diary in 1886, in November, to say Camp “goes to Palestine. “Last week he did not come near me the whole week through, he evidently cares no more about me now than any one of ‘the flock.’”
1886
“I hate myself.”
December
11.
To-day is my ‘jour de naissance,’ I am 22 years old! I can not realize it. It
seems as though I could not have it so, why I am actually getting old, shall be
on the down hill side of life before long! I wonder if I’ll never marry! I
wonder if I shall live to grow old!
Dear
diary! He is gone! Yes! he is gone, & I played my role of
indifference & coolness to the last, he came down to say good bye in the
morning, with his eyes full of tears & his voice unsteady, he could
scarcely speak, he pressed my hand long & lovingly, I just let him hold it,
but otherwise I was: Stony! He probably thinks me the coldest & most
ungrateful and uninteresting girl He ever saw, he little knew how I was longing
to comfort him, & to unbend & be what I once was with him, but alas I
could not! I hate myself, I am a perfect goose! The most unsatisfactory
piece of flesh God ever made it seems to me. I long so to be what I am not.
She spends the last days of the year visiting her friend Annie Rhodes, in Brooklyn, and remains away from home until February 25. A new love seems to make an appearance in her diary:
1887
“Never was more disappointed in my life!”
April 7. It
was glorious! I certainly did receive much favor [in Brooklyn], was invited out
all the time nearly, & had lots of beaux. Mr. Nilsson was all attention
& Mr. Boyd was very polite to me and I expect they will both be down here
[to Sag Harbor] this summer, that is they say they shall come, but I shall not
believe it until I see them. Men are such fickle things!
April. I
must confess I find these fellows here [in Sag Harbor] fearfully stupid.
They don’t seem to know beans, & those that do, don’t care for me. I
suppose, at all events, I won’t stoop for the sake of having a fellow, I
don’t care enough about it for that, I will bide my time, when I will have a
fellow to wait upon me after my own heart.
April
29.
…there is not a soul in this whole world who seems to understand me.
July 7. Mr.
Boyd came this noon.
July 8. Mr.
Boyd was called back again to the city to-day very unexpectedly. Do hope he is sincere.
What pesky luck I’ve had! It could scarcely have been farther from my
anticipation.
Never
was more disappointed in my life! … Everything went wrong almost. Never felt so
flat over any thing in my life. Would not have believed Mr. B. so false &
insincere, although. I imagined him to be weak, (– but a liar.) I was
the biggest fool. Can not imagine what got into me to do so! I have no faith in
any man. I long to find one who could be true.
September
21. Mr.
Boyd paid me a short visit. He found me “head over heals” in paint. … He is
very nice & handsome & the fool knows it, although I do like him very
much, still I think he is just such a “snob”. I’m very sorry that circumstances
should have happened as they did, but I can’t help it. It is a good test to his
sincerity & friendship, a fellow who can’t stand a little paint &
mosquitoes is not worth noticing. But I like him – so much!
A nearly “perfect” summer comes to an end, and Annie says she has had “plenty of beaux.” But she cares only for one man, who her friends describe as “a fashion plate.” That is, Mr. Boyd. She believes he has been put off by seeing her covered in paint and mosquito-bitten.
October 12. ... I believed in Mr. B. as a pure honest, noble fellow. I like him better than all the other men I know –& while I am not in love with him – I would give the friendship of them all for his…when other fellows talk of love to me – it is so absurd – but his face Mr. B’s looms up & I can’t help it.
Annie hears a rumor that Mr. Camp is engaged to her old friend, but writes, “well, ‘mebee he is, but I doubt it.’”
1888
“Are not we lost forever to each other?”
January
13. I
wonder why I’m such a stupid gump! Papa is smart & a thinker, Mama is all
that is sweet, gentle & lovable in woman, yet I – their child, I’m an old
stupid blockhead about most things! Pshaw!!! I am way down in the mind compared
to where I ought to be. I hate myself. I am a complete failure anyhow! I
wonder for what I was born sometimes!
…When
it comes to talking trash, meaningless nothings, nonsense – then
I can beat the monkeys in Central Park, I believe, & this so often when I really
am thinking most of serious things!
Miss Cooper spends most of the winter in New York City again, but her romance with Mr. Boyd has seemingly failed. She writes:
April 6. Are
not we lost forever to each other? Is there any hope of
reunion of sympathies? Any chance of mutual flow of soul again? Any possibility
of again ascending the throne of perfection in his eyes? & yet it
should be so. But I don’t see how it can ever possibly. I am humiliated
beyond expression! I am filled with remorse, & yet – should I not be glad
that I have escaped danger, that I have found out the true strength of
character of the man, should I care about the friendship of a man who would
throw over a girl for one fault, and when he was not sure of that
either? … Mr. Boyd is the man I refer to – he cut me dead this winter – all
because – (I suppose) the way I looked that day – paint & mosquitoes
– Ah ! ----- alas, how frail is man, & how weak is woman. How uncertain
& fickle is man. How false & unjust! But I ----- will be true to him,
even though he has played me false! No world [sic] shall ever cross my lips
against him! God grant us an explanation! – my heart is lonely & sad – ah!
How I long for love. I have spent 9 weeks I guess in this city. I have studied
at the studio again very hard, & very faithfully have been studying from
life & from caste.
July 20. Good
grief! If I haven’t had a pickle! Mr. Smith called on me this evening, his
first call & I thought he never would go, what a sticking plaster!
I never
saw anything to beat his stupidity! I thought I should have to ask him to go!
half past ten! first call and such a quiet sober man! ginks!
September
7. Mr.
Camp, The friend of my girl-hood, the pastor of my first years of communion,
the sunshine of the village when he was here, the betrothed of my dearest
friend…whom he was to marry in October, has cut his throat and jumped into a
cistern where he was found dead.
September 25. Mr. Wick has been my special “affair” this week, we went sailing, & such fun, I “stole off,” in the sly, Mama knew not a thing of where I was going, or Papa. The novelty of being off with a young unmarried minister & indeed a – more than friend – a suitor – the thought that Papa knew nothing of it, and Mama ditto, and the responsibility of the boat in a wind, and the romance of the whole thing was – delicious. … [Wick] as good as told me that I am the girl he meant to marry. … He is a good young fellow of promise, but I could no sooner think of marrying him than I could think of flying!
1889
“I long to conquer him and bring him to me again.”
September
25. Axel
came to see me several times & we walked & talked & oh – how he did
plead again, – that is the fourth time he has proposed to me & four times
he has been rejected.
November
9. John
W. Boyd! – ah! – what a winter of joy – also another winner of pain – does that
name call up – I never liked man so well – surely – even now after two years of
cruel silence – I long to see his pure noble brow – I dislike his bigotted aristocratic notions,
his snoberiness, & his pharisuical accounts of himself, but I love the
memory of his sweet, blue eyes – so wistful & admiring – but of Axel – I
certainly don’t think I can engage myself to him feeling this way about another
– yet I am not in love with either – J.B. hurt my pride – and I long to conquer
him and bring him to me again – not to marry him.
Her diary goes dormant for years. Finally, she and Mr. Boyd are brought together again, during a night of card-playing, at Euchre.
1893
“They lie – he is pure.”
May 28. Shall
I or shall I not add another page to this my long neglected diary. I have given
it up long ago, three years since I’ve written in it and why – partly because I
began to feel it was a useless waste of time & eyesight & partly
because I was so sick at heart that I no longer had any heart to write – but
lately, it has been heavy upon me to cast one more page into the record… I do
not understand it – but this I do know that some how this man holds a sway over
me I cannot shake off – for seven long years I have tried to forget – oh – why
did I ever meet him? Why did I ever go to Brooklyn?
…
These
years have passed – neither of us have married – the tie of friendship is
renewed – but what does it mean – sometimes I ask myself am I the victim of a
great passionate love, which can never die until I die – a love which shakes
the very center of my being – ? only to be the toy of a man of the world? for
they tell me he is such – & is not a pure man – They lie – he is
pure.
… he is
not a religious man – I know I should be unhappy to marry a man with whom I
could not make a Christian home.
June 7. No
letter from Mr. B. yet – he liked me “well enough” for a passing friend…
July 2. A
letter from Mr. B. – he says he leaves for Shelter Island on Sat. next – &
would like to “make his call” on the following Wed.
July 12. Mr.
B. came to-day – I took him to drive to the Park. To-night – I took him sailing
– I think I am a trifle disappointed --- altho – we have tomorrow yet in which
to really get nearer to each other – & then I can better tell.
July 14. Rose
at 5 a.m. to the gental sound of a peble & him seranade under my window –
we went to the East Hampton Beach – it was glorious – we learned more &
more of each other – got a good deal nearer – After dinner he came up & we
were alone & talked – and say good bye – and a week from tomorrow – when he
calls on his way to the city –
Annie gets her hopes up high again, only to see them dashed again. At year’s end, she writes again of her on and off ties to Mr. Boyd:
December
28. I
have been to Brooklyn, with its delights in the social way. Mr. B. was very polite to me in the city – yet it
is absolutely certain to me that he does not care for me – no man who
would let the woman he cared for go away with no more manifestation of right,
no seeking for her company in the future, no request to write, etc – Surely he
does not think I could be satisfied with that cold, easy passive sort and call
it love – never, I am capable of grand passion – the night of my
birthday eve, I cried, and sobbed until I was weak – I struggled and agonized
with this thing – & finally after hours of torture I took away his portrait
locked it away in my private draw with all his things – & resolved to forget
– to strangle & drown this fearful fearful grip he has had upon me –
I will bury him from my life – forever – I’ve kissed his photo – once
– & for the last – & hid it from my sight – & now it only remains for me to be brave
– & forget – God help me – for I feel my weakness – I am at best only a
woman – I leave the problem of my life in His Hands to solve.
NEW YEARS EVE. The family have gone to service – I like staying home with my thoughts, I wanted to be alone a few moments & ’ere the old beloved year died I wanted to hug it a little – it has been so sweet – but only a little for I dare not trust myself – Six years ago to-night I met him – One year ago & I had no hope of ever seeing him to speak again – to-night I am full of enjoyment of his friendship – & yet I am fighting the old fight to forget him – if he knew – I wonder would he pity me – I could not bear that – no he must never know – cut out my tongue first! He sent me a magazine – how I sulked off by my self on the shore & found a big rock & there greedily devoured it – & gloated over the marked places as if trying to make them tell me his thought. I’m sure he cares not – his cold calm passionless friendship is the most deadly thing he can give me – & yet I want it – & I wish him well.
1894
“Is bliss akin to pain?”
February
5. Mr.
Boyd came again to S.H. to-day. We have been sleighriding all the after-noon –
I wonder if I am liking him less – I almost hope so – and yet – if I but knew
him better – he certainly impressed me less today – I think – I don’t think he
has a fine face – not good indications of many of the traits of character I
like best – but I may be mistaken – want to get at Mr. B.’s religious views
– and I must tomorrow –
On
Friday morning – I was convinced he was pleased with his visit but was not in
any sense in love – or particularly interested – but at night I received a
letter written from the hotel – in which he strikes a higher note than he has
ever put in words – I am a little doubtful now as to his position of
indifference, but I – am I becoming indifferent – to be sure his coolness has
driven me to the verge of rebellion & I wonder if I am finding out that I
have been mistaken that I am not in love with him – only with an ideal J.B. I must
find out – for I would not hurt him – & I must be careful now what I do to
encourage or discourage – Oh that Mr. Wick would come upon the scene that I
might compare them and know finally which is the man – Do I approve of
him – his aims in life? What are they? I cannot marry a man whose aim is
“social success” - that may be alright for some – but not for me –
February
14. Such
a lovely valentine came to-day from Mr. B. …
February
27.
Gardie was down to tea last night with his girl Maud – and two such happy
mortals you never saw! He positively couldn’t keep his hands off of her. I
think they were absolutely ridiculous. I like demonstration – I like
affection – & affectionate people – but I don’t like to see the
thing made too common for vulgar curiosity to laugh at, for the world to jeer
at – & Gardie is certainly a bit too much for good taste – I have
been wondering if with all their show of devotion if the love was any
deeper than mine would be – for I know I should not act like that before people
– nor behind them either for that matter – I wonder if ever the time will come
when J. B. will feel the right to place his hands on me as Gardie does
on Maud – I feel as if I should choke to think of it – why I feel as if I
should die of it – what – the pain of it or the bliss of it, which is it – Is
bliss akin to pain? – oh – goodness – It makes me breathe hard for I feel as if
I was going to smoother – at the very thought – for he never has laid so
much as his little finger on me – & even a shake hands makes me feel all creepers
– I don’t see how I should ever stand a caress – & yet I could have
even longed to lay a cool gentle kiss upon his fair open forehead – what a
queer mixture of passion & mood & hopes we are –!
I don’t
suppose he ever thinks of these things – & yet I bet he has kissed many
other girls – & hugged them to – but not a shadow of familiarity has he
even offered me – I respect him for that – and yet at times his coldness drives
me wild. I wonder if there is any other girl in town who has had the lovers I
have had – who have kept sacred their lips & their person –
for the one who at last may succeed – ? Whenever they have begged for favors
always – his blue eyes – & pure brow would rise up – & although I knew
I might never see him again – yet I couldn’t let them place their lips upon
mine – I may be silly – no doubt I am. Most girls take those things naturally
& all they can get – but I can’t – it seems like being false to my
womanliness…I shall let no man but one give me my first lip kiss
– and if not he – then no man –
March
18. One
year ago this week – we met – what a joyous year – ! How I have enjoyed
his friendship! Clouds seem to be trying to gather, letters from Mrs. Conklin
and Annie R. saying – Oh Annie – drop him – he is not worthy –! They like him
for me as a friend – but they hear rumors – they hear that his
Mother is talking & that she thinks I am rich – (I know he doesn’t
for I have told him so – & I don’t care what she thinks) – I have a very
small opinion of her – a proud – haughty – extravagant, vain, woman! a
woman who lacks the innate refinement of a lady born – she savors of the new
rich kind – of pork & pomposity – Oh – I wish he was not her
son.
March
24. I
wonder if he will send me an Easter Greeting – why should he – & yet
if he cares – as I do he will – I must not send him anything – it must
come only from him – he is a man – I only a woman & must wait
– I cannot & will not ever put him under the slightest necessity to
do me a courtesy – He must woo – if he wants to win – he will –
May 26. He
never seems to care enough for me to put himself out in the least – he
takes things as they happen – not seeks or make an effort
to get to me – now he came here last summer – but only when it was his
vacation – he came here last winter – but on his vacation – not a Sunday since
our before – he says he is coming this summer – on his vacation – now I
am tired of this sort of thing – I am not a vacation girl – if he does
not care enough to come down for a Sunday – I think he cares very little. … For
his sake I try to keep my mind & thoughts clean & pure – I try to be
what I think he would have me – & oh – how can I write it, the foul
charge A. R. made against him – that he keeps a bad woman N.Y. – & that he
is a man of the world entirely – & also that he laughs to people
about me & says he can marry me for the asking! No. I don’t believe he said
it.
June 2. Have
received a letter from him – in which he says – he wants to be considered my
truest and best friend – and I must not murmur if he desires to devote all his
time to me – Oh – what joy and peace that letter has brought – how my soul
leapt for joy – !
September
5. Words
– words – words – what vain things when the heart is on fire to express
a world of meaning – I have so much to say I cannot say it – this is the most
eventful summer of my life – at once the most anxious and the happiest – I have
so many events to record I scarcely know where to begin – Papa ill –
unutterably sad – this passing away of the aged – dear dear Papa – how I yearn
to make him young – then underneath, it all – there has risen a great and holy
joy a deep sublime sweetness – a wonderful, unexpected, – unspeakable
joy – for on my third finger of my left hand flashes a beautiful diamond
pledge of my own true love – what is it I am writing? It sounds like a myth!!!
… I know he is not what I thought I was looking for – he is not rich, he is not
handsome, he is not witty – nor yet brilliant – he is not a man of position in
the eyes of the world – he is simply & only John Boyd – a man from Greenpoint
– a wage winner – a good – honest - noble man.
A stylish young lady - 1890. |
Annie Cooper and John Boyd were married on February 20, 1895, and the marriage lasted for forty years, until his death in 1939.
She would later admit she was afraid her diaries might fall into the wrong hands. Yet she also hesitated “to burn it up.”
Looking back on what she had written, in old age, she would say, “I have laughed until I ached over the first books. The others are written in blood, so vitally real they are to me. Yet I cannot realize I am the foolish child, so full of human passions of all kinds that it reveals.”
They had two children, a boy and a girl, who went off to successful careers.
“Marion Taylor”
(1912-1920)
“Marion Taylor” was born in 1902 and began keeping a diary in 1912, with three entries. Her next entry would not come for eighteen months. As Penelope Franklin, the editor of Private Pages explains – a book this blogger can recommend – the names in her diary, including “Taylor,” have been changed.
The diarist notes in 1913, that her parents have split up. “Dear Diary: We are living in Glendale [California] now. Papa doesn’t live with us anymore, but we are living very happiley in a beautiful little house.”
Later still, she adds, “After ten or eleven years of married life my father decided that he must be free to marry his pretty sixteen year old office girl and insisted on a divorce… It was a great blow to my mother. I remember hearing the news from her as she lay weeping in bed that Papa didn’t love her anymore and that we were going to move away.”
There’s a second gap, then Taylor picks up in earnest. Franklin picks up the diary the day Taylor turns 13.
1915
“Papa…says colledge isen’t good for girls!”
February
9. Dear
Friend, today I am thirteen (13) years old! I am in my teens. I had the I.Q. up
and oh the fun we had! What I.Q. means has never been written on paper until
now. As a great secret I will tell you what it means. It means Ingenious
Quartet. … We had a beautiful birthday cake. There was a dime, a thimble, and a
ring baked in it.
Charlotte
Foote [one of the I.Q. girls along with Ruth, Molly, and Marion] got the dime,
Caroline [her sister] got the ring and the thimble wasn’t found. I was in hopes
I’d get it cause I am going to be an old maid. I made a solemn vow never to be
married this morning and intend to keep it.
I
feel very aged today. I am in my “teens”!
March
22.
Today what do you think happened? It
fairly stunned me. I can’t realize it. A horrible tragedy. The girls (Ruth and
Molly but not Charlotte) went and, for some mean and unaccountable reason told
Miss Green [one of her teachers] that I was crazy over her ect.
April
20. One
time I went into show M. G. a book on leaves of mine and the other girls (the
big horrids!) all of them followed me in and stood acting only as girls can,
giggling and laughing at me until I could hardly keep my self-control. My face
was as red. I just rushed out and came as near bauling as I have.
April
22. If I
ever am fool enough to marry I shall marry a quiet grave, serious, man;
literary in his tastes and a great deal older than I. If I ever have children I
want my baby (I hope I don’t have more than one!!) quiet and the kind that
likes to be cuddled and loved and not a rembunktious kid like some.
May 15. I
have been thinking...I want a college education. Miss Green has a college
education. I am afraid I can’t be a Natural Science teacher which is what I
especially want to be without it. Well that is all in the faraway future!
June 14. Papa
is going to be married again sometime this month and it is only on the 8th of
this month and he gets the final divorce decree and can get married! Do
you wonder that I am determined to be a Bachelor maid?
June 15. Oh I
can never settle down to a quiet married life and work in the monoteny. You get
up in the morning and do dishes three times then go to bed again with a vision
of countless days just the same. If I had to look forward to a life of it! 0h!
My hope and salvation is next fall – school.
June 23. My
ambitions are daily reaching higher. A college education now. Papa tells me to
get that “bee out of my bonnet”. He says colledge isen’t good for girls!
Nonsense! I’m not going to be a “wifie” and household drudge!
August
7. I
don’t take any interest in my clothes at all and it makes mother so mad.
August
16. My
nose is the trial of my life. It is big and shapeless and usually pimpeled and
always red.
September
13.
SCHOOL! It has begun! I’ve looked forward to today all vacation. Miss Howe was
just lovely and darling but Miss Green beats her to smash. She held my
hand all the time she was talking and was so nice to me! We talked abought
fifteen minutes in the hall.
A
Few of the Most Important Rules for the New School Year.
Smile!
Smile! Look animated and pleasant. You are an awful lemon when you don’t.
Be sure
of yourself. Be confident in yourself. Just think who you are and throw back
your shoulders.
Be very
very neat in your personal appearance. A lady is always neat!
Speak
low and softly.
Don’t
show off.
Say
pleasant things about people. Never say unkind things.
October 14. I’m five ft. five and I only weigh 99 lbs.
1916
“I’m going to be pretty.”
January
8. Miss
Green told us yesterday, to say each morning before we get out of bed: “I am so
glad I’m alive”! And on rainy mornings to say it twice.
January
24. When
we graduate from Intermediate we will have a class party. And at these parties
the boys take the girls. Mother says that I can’t go with any boy! It isn’t the
boy that I want but all the other girls are going with them and I don’t
want to be the only one and the only one left out. I simply won’t go to
the party at all if I can’t go like the other girls! Maybe fourteen is
too young but I don’t care.
There
was one girl this year that refused to go to the party with a boy and everybody
is talking about her and calling her a pig. I’m not so specially anxious to go
with a boy but I don’t want to be the only one that doesn’t and be a
wall-flower. The other girls are all going and they laughed at me when I told
them what mother said. I won’t go to that class party at all then! I’ll let
them think I’m ill. I won’t be talked about and pitied by an outsider!
February
3. I’ve
got a glorious secret…It’s this: I’m going to be pretty! I feel it in my bones
and see it in the mirror. I’ll never be a raving beauty nor very pretty
but I’m going to be nice looking. I’m not vain – I’ve been homely for so long
that the promise of looking better is mighty nice. Even mother said “Youre
getting better looking every day!” And one of the neighbor ladies said (it was
very much exaggerated!) “Why Marion is getting positively beautiful!”
I
think it’s just because I’m young and girlish looking, and healthy and happy.
Every girl wants to be nice looking and I certainly do!
February
9. Just
think! I am fourteen. Papa sent me a lovely bag. And then in the evening Miss
Green came. After dinner we sat around the fire and she had me sit in her lap.
February
21. Papa
hasn’t written us forever so long nor sent our allowance and I’ve written him three
letters. He makes me tired! Oh I wish we didn’t have to depend on him for
everything and then we wouldn’t have to “keep on his good side” and humour him
all the time!
April 2. What
I said quite a long time ago about how I thought I was getting nice looking is
all a fake! I’m just as puggy and smuggy as ever and lankier and sicklier and
sallower and there’s no getting around it. … I’ve got some brains anyway even
if I don’t look it! Well, I’m not crippled or disfigured and I might
be worse.
May 15. My
average of 96 and 3/4 is the highest in all the class! I tell you I’m mighty
proud. … I’m not popular nor cute, nor attractive or interesting or pretty. And
I’m not in the [class] play (which is a very high honor) nor in the Glee club
so why should anyone begrudge me this.
June 17. Miss
Green came this evening for dinner. [Marion has had a fight with her best
friends. She has been sulking, or keeping to herself, and her teacher believes
she should make up. Miss Green says:]
“The girls – not the I. Q. only, but all the girls at school like you
and admire you so much but you seem to repel their advances You have a great
influence for good with the girls if you only will, Marion. It isn’t right you
should keep all to yourself. The teachers and the girls think so much of you.
You are a sweet, lovely, darling girl, but people who do not know you will
misunderstand you. I’ve never been more interested in any girl I have known,
Marion, and I am telling you this because I am so interested in you. I want to
save you the heartache I suffered when I was in High School. I was miserable
because I couldn’t find one girl who was congenial. Just love all the girls and
look for the best in them.” That is what she said as near in her words as I can
remember. She held my hand and she was so kind and loving and what she said
meant so much more in her own dear voice than it does when I write it down.
June 21. (I
think our heaven or hell is made right here on this earth by each individual.)
July 13.
Caroline was at Papa’s [office] all day yesterday. He asked her if she wouldn’t
like to live with him. Wasn’t that mean of him! He’s trying hard to get her.
July 16. I
affirm my four greatest wishes. I am unselfish. I am healthy and strong. I am
charming. I am wise with a keen mind. … Now with mother I never kiss her and
I’d feel dreadfully silly if I hugged her or anything, though I love her more
than anybody else in the world. But with Papa I could kiss him and act soft and
never mean a thing by it nor think of it. I haven’t a spark of love in my heart
for papa sad to say though from outward appearances I might love him like
everything. And Caroline to. I love her a lot in spite of her bickering, but
I’d no more kiss her! I’m a funny girl I guess.
August 19. The only thing I like about Marion Taylor is that she’s got a good bit of brains – at least I think so.
1917
“I’m afraid to grow up – I’m a coward.”
May. All
the miracle of nature and life, and love, that is my idea of God. … I’m afraid
to grow up – I’m a coward…
September.
Mother gets shocked at some of my infidel views.
October. They
got out the honor list of people who will receive pins and everybody is asking
everybody else whether they are going to get one or not. And I’m not, and Ruth
is, and Mary and everybody else with the slightest brains. You don’t know how
ashamed I feel. It’s awfully humiliating, and I feel murderous to Ruth [one of
the four I. Q. girls] – she acts so mean about it. She acts very condescending
and patronizing and I could slap her!
Well,
while I was feeling in this sweet mood, we had a big spelling match, and trust
me to get spelled down and Ruth to carry off the honors. So I sulked like a
baby. … I’ve lost all respect for myself…
November. Oh and wouldn’t it be lovely to meet a young man (when I grow up) that was real serious-minded and that cared for intellectual things and liked me and I liked him and he liked scientific things and books and we’d have so much fun nosing around in museums, art stores, and bookstores… and we’d travel and write nature books, and after quite a while have a little girl to spoil and bring up all sweet and dainty.
1918
“I hate Miss Green!”
January
1. How
on earth do people like me when I’m such an awful cuss?! Of course people
outside of the family don’t see much of my selfishness and meanness, but I act
so unpleasant with the girls; I rant and rave and hate everybody, but a few
people. But Charlotte and Mary like me best!
January
16. Miss
Green called up this evening. And what do you think! She said “Do you want to
trade photographs?” Won’t that be great! She talked about Mr. Wood. Darn him!
(That’s the man that likes her you know!)
January
22. It
was not very long ago that I believed in angels and hell etc. – but how
impossible they seem now! I think heaven and such things are two grand and
wonderful to be all figured out down to such details – such material details as
wings and gold in the streets – I think man’s mind is not capable of realizing
the truth – only such truths as we need here – and unselfishness is about as
much as we can handle here – I cannot accept any ideas at all about God or the
next world – either orthodox or otherwise – because why should we have
discovered the truth when millions before us have not.
February
4. A
girl was telling me that she kept a diary – she said she had such a dreadful
time trying to think what to put in it. I’ll venture hers runs “Got up at 7 –
ate breakfast, had mush and biscuits, went to school came home, etc.”
February. I don’t want to go to heaven; eternal bliss
sounds rather stupid.
February. I
just hate Miss Green! I’m mad at her forever. I’ll never like her anymore. I
met her tonight, and I haven’t seen her for a month, and she nodded and
wouldn’t walk with me and was utterly hateful. She thinks she’s too good for
other people! She was rude. I just hate her! It’s absolutely sickening the way
I’ve acted over her. I’ve absolutely no more interest in her. I tore up her
pictures and packed away everything that reminds me of her!
September. I
wrote papa a while ago, about how I wanted to go to college, and a little
concerning my opinions on matrimony. I got some letter from him today.
He said if I wanted college, I should have to get it for myself, and that I
took life too seriously, and that when the time comes “he” will care more about
the cute little curl behind my ear than for my opinions on the whyness of the
unknowable, if he loves me as he should. Those are his very words. What do you
think of that for a father’s words to his daughter. Oh more than ever I realize
that if I marry it must absolutely be a serious-minded congenial man. How
terrible to be married to an “animal” that cared only for your physical charms
– a silly thing, that only thought about the “cute little curl behind your
ear.” Makes me positively ill to think about it!
October. Papa
was here today. I wish I could never see him again for years. He is absolutely
boring – his conversation is so empty – he is so silly, so boyish, so
conceited, has no ideals, etc. I have no affection for him whatever. I just
can’t help it. He is physically disgusting. Isn’t it dreadful for a daughter to
feel so!
December 25. Papa has given us such a nice Christmas this year. Besides the money, he bought Caroline a Christmas tree and trimmings, and this evening he brought over a great basket of fruit and some bacon and eggs. He stayed for dinner. He has taken a great deal of interest in us girls lately, and has seemed less boyish.
1919
“I long for Romance – maybe that’s it.”
February
9. Today
was my seventeenth birthday and the long looked forward to event came off, to
whit, Miss Jarvis’ [her teacher’s] visit. I had an agonizing time manufacturing
conversation.
February. I’ve
laughed myself sick today. I took a couple of my first story notebooks that I
wrote in the seventh grade to school to show Henrietta. I hadn’t read them for
a long, long time, and we read them together in study period. It’s just as if I
had never written them, and oh they are so funny. They’re rich! Such a mixture
of romance and ridiculousness (if there is such a word) and so trashy and
sentimental. The spelling is wonderful to behold! Oh, they are screams.
Henrietta nearly split laughing and Miss Jarvis changed my seat for disturbing
the peace.
February. Latin
is over!!!! two years and a half of suffering ended today. I shall proceed to
forget it all.
April. There
are only two boys I have ever known that I admired or respected in the least
and they are far from perfect. All the other boys I have ever seen are big,
foolish, conceited, empty-headed babies. These two are fairly grown up boys –
they have thoughts and ideas of their own, and are not afraid to express them.
April. I
long for Romance – maybe that’s it. The Romance over Miss Jarvis is altogether
too one-sided. I wish some other Romance would come my way. I never, never got
so worked up about Miss Green! I am half ashamed to confess it diary but I want
some Romance in the form of the detested sex!!! …
Now
listen diary. Supposing that it could be possible for one of the Right Kind to
enjoy my company if I knew him and he knew me, why how to go about it? I assure
you I’m not so anxious as to go after them. But I should very much like to know
a congenial boy and I do want a little excitement. I want it awful, awful bad.
April. In
sewing I was making a pair of drawers – they were in two pieces and I hadn’t
the slightest idea how they went together and when I went to join the pieces
together, I found that the ruffles, instead of being around the legs, ran up
the middle of the front and back! My teacher thinks I am an inspired idiot.
I’ve spent four periods, ripping those ruffles out. I spend most of my time in
sewing ripping things out. How I hate sewing. It really drives me wild.
June.
Mother is working again. She comes home at night just worn out, and yet she
will work period she’s just wearing herself out. Papa won’t give us more money.
And it makes me so mad to think she has to work like that. And she worries and
worries to make ends meet and is pessimistic and nervous.
July. I
have decided never to get married. I’m quite discouraged. Mother says that when
a woman marries, she must submerge her personality. I think that’s bosh. I
don’t intend to submerge mine. She says it’s all nonsense to think I could ever
meet a man who cared for books and the things I do. I don’t think it is.
Marriage would be Hell if the man wasn’t congenial.
Mother
won’t let me read. I have to sew. I simply hate to sew, and I don’t accomplish
anything. I am so lazy. I don’t like to move around, I hate housework. I just
like to read and write. It’s awful. Oh dear. Why am I so awful. Why wasn’t I a
man. I suppose I would be a poor sort of man, too.
August. It
gives me great satisfaction to catch my thoughts on paper where they can’t get
away, though goodness knows they’re not valuable and it never does any good.
September
15. I
have one wish – a Twentieth Century Maiden’s Prayer. It’s something which I
cannot realize through any efforts of my own – something the charm of which is
in its coming to one. Romance!! Oh that it may come this year! Mildly of
course. Really one’s high school course is not complete without a little wee
bit of Romance. I’ll be eighteen in February. I want some boy to like me. I
wish I were a man, but since Fate has decreed otherwise I want to make a
thorough job of being a woman!
…I do
think that marriage is a bad proposition, and that if one used her head and not
her heart, she wouldn’t get married.
October
1. It’s
so humiliating to one’s pride to like a boy when he is not interested in you.
October
6. I
have fallen hard. I do not think for a moment that I am in love in the mildest
degree with that boy (never having spoken to him in my life!). I am in love
with Romance and excitement.
October
7. Oh
diary! Such exciting things happened today. I spoke to him! Diary, I must
confess all, though I blush to do so. The latter part of noon he goes in the
history room and studies all by his lonesome. And so do I! I haven’t dared
speak to him until today.
It
was about 5 minutes before I dared say anything. At last I blurted out this
profound and brilliant question: “Do you think Mr. Howe will give us that test
he threaten?” Nearly choked me – my heart was in my mouth. He looked surprised
but responded bravely. We discussed Mr. Howe’s merits as a teacher, and ancient
history as compared with modern, the cultural value of history, and kindred
subjects. He talks so well! He is so serious minded. He loves history. He has
so much poise. He is so handsome. I’m wild about him. He says “hello”
every time we meet, now.
October
17. Oh
this is the life! This is real life. I must, I will get acquainted with Harold
Pomeroy!!
October
20. My
romance progresses slowly, but it progresses. Any other girl than me would have
progressed as far as I have in 5 weeks, in one day. But I am new to the game. I
have learned valuable information. I’ve learned that the discussion of the
cultural value of history and kindred topics, will not get one very far, no
matter how clever and apparently serious-minded the gentleman may be. I’ve
learned that one must talk vivaciously, and on such subjects as foot-ball. One
must laugh and talk about trivial and foolish things.
October 21. I am getting awfully silly! All I think of is Romance. H.P. makes me mad! He is so utterly indifferent. I wish, oh I wish someone, I don’t care who, would fall violently in love with me. I’m tired of being violently in love with people who don’t give a rap for me.
1920
“Where are the thrills?”
June 7. Papa
came over and staged the biggest farce that was ever pulled off. He arrived in
an apparently fainting condition, gasping for breath and saying that the
doctors had said he couldn’t live a year at the rate he was going now. Said I
would have to get out and work. He couldn’t support us any longer. But in a
little while he recovered completely from his dreadful condition, and was
laughing and cutting up with Caroline just as usual. Oh the dirty hypocrite! He
told mother that I must get out and work in a telephone office. He would not
support me through college or Normal He was very decided and stubborn about it.
… unless mother can get permanent work of some kind I shall have to get out and
work, and give up school I must have Normal at least. I will have
it.
How
I despise my father. No doubt his health is bad, but mother isn’t half as
strong, and she works much harder. He has always been opposed to higher
education.
June 19. I got
a letter from Miss Green this morning. She is going to bring that young man she
spoke of once before, to graduation and make him take me home afterwards! She’s
awfully romantic! In spite of the fact that I know the gentleman (his name is
Mr. Trevor and he’s 22), is doing the escorting by compulsion I am very much
excited.
June 24. Well,
Mr. Trevor called. I must admit I was disappointed. He is short and has a
little bullet head and stiff yellow hair closely cropped, and a red face. It
was rather embarrassing having to introduce ourselves. I felt so awkward and
uneasy. I don’t know how to meet the ordinary little gallantries. He sprang at
me to help me on with my cloak, and I didn’t want it on in the least and got so
flustered. And he edged around for the outside of the sidewalk, and I forgot
that the gentleman is supposed to do that and I nearly knocked him off because
I started to walk on the outside too. At last he fell all over himself and I
knew my family was enjoying the spectacle immensely from the window! And
crossing the streets he would seize my arm in a vice-like grip and shove me
over. I talked a blue streak – because I was afraid to keep still. I dread
those awful silences. He wouldn’t talk much. He isn’t a bit interesting or
unusual.
Well
it was the first time I have ever been escorted anyplace by a fellow, and
where are the thrills?!? I fully expected to be thrilled to the core. And I
wasn’t a bit. I was just rather excited and rather ill at ease. Isn’t Romance
thrilling after all? So I’m so surprised and disappointed! What if Romance
isn’t anything after all!
We
discussed politics on the way home. I was embarrassed half to death when
we reached the house. Do you ask ’em in? I didn’t. I walked in and he followed.
That’s him – he follows! Do you ask ’em to sit down. I didn’t. I wanted him to
go, it was so embarrassing. I made various lame remarks and there were several
harrowing pauses. He asked for my phone number and said he’d call me up some
evening. I breathed a sigh of relief when he was gone. I hope to goodness he
doesn’t call. An evening talking to him would bore one to tears. He is engaged
in the manufacture of soda pop and ginger beer!!!!
July 2. Well,
this diary is full. It was just big enough for my senior year. It has had a
happy happy year to record. I shall feel quite lonesome in a big empty new
diary!
Let’s
go back to the first page a minute. There is a noble resolve to be less
self-centered and broader in sympathies. Has it been achieved. Yes, I think it
has to quite an extent. But not so much through any efforts of mine. It just
came naturally and pleasantly. Opportunity for development we need does come
naturally I think. Isn’t it a wonderful thing that it does.
And
as to the Twentieth Century Maidens Prayer – the Maiden has learned a lesson or
two and doesn’t waste her time praying for such things. She has been cured of
her foolish desire – no, not cured, but she can behave herself and wait. Her
prayer wasn’t granted, but the desire was taken away, which amounts to the same
thing in a way. But she hasn’t lost her faith in Romance after all.
Goodbye
At U.C.L.A., Franklin says, Marion continued to talk about men she was meeting. In 1922, she took an interest in Jack, a pre-med student in one of her zoology classes. They married in 1933, but neither wanted children.
Marion admitted to a few friends, years later, that she was a lesbian. She died “rather suddenly of a heart attack,” as Franklin writes, in 1960.
She was
58.
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